Everything you Need to Know about Mindfulness but were too afraid to ask!

Everything you Need to Know about Mindfulness but were too afraid to ask!

Everything you Need to Know about Mindfulness but were too afraid to ask! 1170 1170 Neil Seligman

Let’s start at the beginning…

What is Mindfulness?
There’s a short answer and a long answer, both are important.

Here’s the short answer:
Mindfulness is just another word for meditation.

The long answer:
It’s really complicated! Before we even approach a definition we should acknowledge the following three problems that arise when attempting to define mindfulness.

Problem 1
The first problem is that mindfulness refers to an experience and words are unable to completely describe experiences.

In fact, attempting to describe any experience which is known by some people, but not all, with words alone is almost impossible. Here’s why: If I tell you I am happy, I rely upon the assumption that you can understand how I am feeling by accessing your own memory of experiencing happiness for yourself. If you have never felt happiness, you cannot really know how I feel now.

It follows then that if I tell you I am in a state of mindfulness, that unless you have experienced mindfulness for yourself, you would understand nothing from my words.

Problem 2
The second problem is that a lot of authors have side-stepped the tricky issue of describing the state of mindfulness and chosen instead to define it by listing the benefits of practicing it, or how to do it, or muddled all three together.

Now whilst it is true to say that mindfulness is likely to reduce stress, make you healthier, allow you to sleep better, make you more productive, joyful and vital that list does not help you understand what mindfulness actually is.  Those benefits are not even the traditional aims of mindfulness (which is grounded in non-striving), they just happen to be nice by-products.

Thus the benefits of mindfulness have been confused with the state of mindfulness when in fact they are very different and best kept separate.

Problem 3
The third issue in defining mindfulness is that the word ‘mindful’ in its common English usage means paying attention and taking care.  So when someone talks about working mindfully or moving mindfully or even living mindfully we might just think they are being considerate.

Being considerate probably is an outcome of mindfulness (the meditation one) but again, it doesn’t come close to describing the state of mindfulness.

I am certainly no linguist but I imagine with any new vocabulary there is a stage of confusion before some sort of clarity arises in terms of definition and meaning. Mindfulness, as demonstrated here, poses some very particular problems, and perhaps all we can say with certainty at this point is that mindfulness is far away from a clear modern definition.

As a result, you will find almost as many definitions of mindfulness as people who are talking and writing about it.  You don’t need to be aware of them all, but one that you might be interested in is that of Jon Kabat-Zinn, the most current and well-known advocate of mindfulness and author of bestsellers ‘Wherever You Go, There You Are’ and ‘Full Catastrophe Living’:

“Mindfulness is paying attention in a particular way on purpose, in the present moment and non-judgmentally.”

For now though, lets come back to our even simpler definition, ‘mindfulness is just another word for meditation’ because that prompts quite a few further questions which are important to consider.

If Mindfulness and Meditation are one and the same – why are we all talking about Mindfulness?
Although it would perhaps be simpler to have stuck with the word meditation, the reasons for introducing a new vocabulary are pretty solid.

For most people, the word meditation brings with it some baggage. Meditation conjurs up visions of holy monks, historical religious figures and intense spiritual experiences which seem distant, unattainable, and far away from Western daily-life.

These religious and spiritual connotations were thought by Kabat-Zinn and others to be likely to act as a barrier to many of us in the West, easily put off, as we may be, by anything that smells a bit religious or fluffy.

In exchanging mindfulness for meditation, the new generation of writers and academics were able to strip out the religious and spiritual and make the practice accessible and approachable.  The new language consciously invited the Western audience in by being secular and unencumbered by cultural, religious, and ethnic specificity. This is very important when we are bringing the practice to education, healthcare, social, and corporate environments.

Isn’t mindfulness Buddhist though?
It is true to say that mindfulness arises from the Buddhist tradition. Whilst this is acknowledged by most writers on the subject, the clear attempt has been to distil from the ancient traditions of mindfulness a secular practice of meditation which offends no one as it is based on your inherent humanity and nothing more.  It was meant to get past the nose of the scientists, medics and corporate types…and it has!

If you are interested in how mindfulness is described in the Buddhist tradition you need to be aware of:
1. The Four Noble Truths
2. The Noble Eightfold Path
3. The Four Foundations of Mindfulness

The Four Noble Truths:
1. The truth of suffering. (As in, life can be a bit tricky).
2. The truth of the origin of suffering. (Man creates his own suffering when he does not approach life mindfully.)
3. The truth of the cessation of suffering. (It is possible to transcend suffering through a mindful approach to life.)
4. The truth of the path leading to the cessation of suffering. (The map out of suffering is called the Noble Eightfold Path)

The Noble Eightfold Path:
1. Right view
2. Right intention
3. Right speech
4. Right action
5. Right livelihood
6. Right effort
7. Right mindfulness
8. Right concentration

Here the word ‘Right’ does not mean correct but is somewhat closer in meaning to ‘harmonic’ or ‘resonant’. What the path seeks therefore is alignment between who you are and everything you think, do and be in your lifetime.  Following the path is therefore a life’s work.

At number 7 we see the entry Right Mindfulness. Buddha taught that the entry point to mindfulness was awareness of the breath. He then suggested the following foundational practices:

The Four Foundations of Mindfulness.
1.     Mindfulness of the body.
2.     Mindfulness of feelings (or sensations).
3.     Mindfulness of mind (or consciousness).
4.     Mindfulness of mental phenomena (Eg. sense of self, purpose).

If Meditation and Mindfulness are synonymous, how would you define Meditation?
For me – meditation is the pure experience of consciousness.

Meditation occurs when we quieten the surface-level activity of mind (often characterised by anxiety, striving, scheduling etc.), ground ourselves in our physicality, centre ourselves in heartful awareness and become still in the pure state of being that is our essence.

Did I lose you? Here again, we encounter the limitation of words when describing experiential phenomenon.

My description can only reference the experience of meditation for those who have already had the experience. For those that haven’t been there, the words can only serve to arouse curiosity, or might even put you off!

Through usage, meditation has also come to mean ‘any practice or ritual which brings one towards the pure state of conscious experience’. Thus the practice of contemplation to welcome in the state of meditation, has itself been dubbed meditation, as has the ritual of sitting down cross-legged with your eyes closed.

When I offer mindfulness classes, what I am actually offering is classes sharing exercises in contemplation. These practices might, in time, enhance a participant’s ability to meditate.

So when most people say they are going off to meditate, what they are actually doing is going to practice the craft of contemplation. This might be breath-awareness or thought-monitoring and meditation is an experience that sometimes occurs during that practice.

The distinction between contemplation and meditation could be summarised as follows. Contemplation is something you do.  Meditation is something you be.

I sometimes intrigue my class by telling them that meditation is something that simply occurs ‘when awareness comes to meet you in the silence’. It is just an idea, but it gives you the sense that meditation is something that arises, it is not something that you ‘do’.

What does it really mean to be Mindful then in this expanded sense?
To give you a flavour of this, I will describe it from my own experience.

When I am mindful, I am present and available to understand, think, speak, act or relate from a pristine state of consciousness.

My state of consciousness is pristine when I show up in the absence of my conditioning, preconceptions, judgments, circumstances, considerations, predictions, diagnoses, fears, complaints, stories and drama.

What does it take to become Mindful?
As you might imagine from the description above, learning to be mindful is an enormous challenge. If you are above 20 you are unlikely to have been equipped by schooling or socialisation to have any competence in the delicate craft of pristine conscious awareness. Yet it is possible to live with a growing commitment to being mindful, as I do.

Although I know that the majority of the time, my state of consciousness is not pristine, I have developed the awareness to know when I am mindful and when I am not and I practice skills and techniques which enable me to increase my capacity to be mindful day by day.  The practice is enjoyable and rewarding and I see my experience of life is enhanced as a result of it.

The starting point for increasing our personal capacity for mindfulness must be a practice of stillness.  Group classes make the practice accessible and fun whilst a daily ritual of home meditation is fundamental. Whilst, the challenges are intense, the learning is exciting and the discoveries plentiful.

Beginning to uncover your own internal sphere of experience is a little like exploring a new world and as such can be a surprisingly enjoyable and unexpected endeavour.

Why is everyone suddenly talking about Mindfulness now?  Hasn’t it been around forever?
Mindfulness has been practiced for millennia in the East. As noted earlier, it is principally a Buddhist tradition although meditation is described by all major religions and incorporated into many non-faith philosophies. Until recently, as a Westerner, if you wanted to learn from the esoteric traditions of the East you had to make a great journey and convince a teacher to take you on as a student.

It wasn’t until the middle of the last century that the master teachers from the East began migrating to the West in significant numbers where they were to find a willing new flock in the counter cultures of the Hippies and New-Agers.  The teachings then travelled into the mainstream as Western students matured and came on to be the psychologists, teachers and authors of today.  There are now proven theories, generously-funded research projects and scientific papers supporting the practice and benefits of these traditional methods.

In corporate circles, more CEO’s than you would imagine have secretly had their guru or teacher assisting them for decades. They knew a long time ago what the science has gone on to prove. Mindfulness brings with it greater emotional intelligence, increased productivity, less stress and enhanced creativity, all crucial in business growth, and leadership.  Now, the business world is openly embracing mindfulness, seen as the next innovation in human potential which can help you get ahead.

To give one example, the Wisdom 2.0 Conference in San Francisco, which I have been attending since 2014, has fed into and grown out of the corporate mindfulness revolution, itself a facet of the fledgling Conscious Business movement.  Since 2009 the big technology companies have been meeting in the Silicon Valley to address what they see as “the great challenges of our age: to not only live connected to one another through technology, but to do so in ways that are beneficial to our own well-being, effective in our work, and useful to the world”. The annual line up of speakers often includes mindfulness experts such as Eckhart Tolle, Chade-Meng Tan, and Jon Kabat-Zinn.

So if Mindfulness is directing me to examine my essence, or my pure state of consciousness, what might I find there? (TBH it sounds a bit spooky).
This is the bit that the new mindfulness ideology sort of side-steps currently. For me, the human animal has a spiritual identity as well as a physical and mental one.

Mindfulness meditation was traditionally taught as a foundational skill on the path of awakening, and whilst we can say that this is generally not the focus of modern mindfulness practice, as teachers it will be important to address philosophical or spiritual questions sensitively when they arise in an individuals practice.

Through my own work, it has always been my hope to help people discover their own personal truths (spiritual or otherwise) by encouraging and teaching them how to access different states of their own experience. I am convinced that this is the only way in which we really come to know ourselves and get closer to answering our biggest questions.

If Mindfulness can help us achieve that as individuals and as a species – I am all for it.

By Neil Seligman


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